It’s the last post of 2010! And to celebrate the end of a fabulous year, today’s post is by Natalie Kath, writer at one of my fave blogs, Slimming Down to Sexy. Go to Natalie’s site and you’ll understand why Nathalie is a Cake and Carrots girl–she approaches weight loss and health with a sense of humor. Love it. So enjoy this last post of 2010..it sums up my philosophy perfectly. Look for more guest posts to come in 2011!
Somewhere along the line, we gave away our power. Maybe we got told one too many times that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, and finally bought into the concept that we need others to validate our self worth? At least where our outward appearance is concerned. We need the latest trending fashion, or $300 jeans (hello!! it is denim!! why are they that expensive?!?!) We think we have to fit in a certain mold in order to be considered worth it. Maybe we all have just watched a few too many episodes of “America’s Next Top Model”? It is madness.
I prefer to work in shades of “sexy”. Now I know the title of my blog would lead you to think I believe you have to be thin to be sexy – but this is not the case. Sexy is different things to different people, but I think sexy is a state of mind. It doesn’t matter what size, color or shape you are – sexy comes from within. Sexy is confidence - walking into the room like you own it. Sexy is being comfortable in your own skin. Sexy is having a sense of humor. (Shout out to those people that make us laugh!) Sexy is having a personality. Smart is sexy.
You’ve been there…..where there are a group of guys, and the one you are the most attracted to is maybe not the one who is classically attractive. The one that catches your eye is the one with that aura – whether it is confidence, or humor – whatever it is, it is like a magnet. That is sexy.
I think I have always been a fairly confident person. Even at my biggest, before fat camp, I just thought I had enough other positives to overshadow my weight. But I was so unhealthy. My skin had gotten to the point of rebelling, because all I ate was crap. (Oddly enough, it would seem big macs and pizza are not this world’s hidden beauty secret!) I was not very mobile. I was getting so big that just simply getting around could sometimes be uncomfortable. Sexy is valuing yourself enough to take care of yourself, and I wasn’t.
Don’t let the media tell you what is sexy. They would have you believe that walking around with your skin glistening with sweat, with sweat-saturated hair, and your lips parted is sexy. For the average person we’d just look like we’re missing a chromosome, and have a glandular disorder.
I have found that I feel more sexy (and feeling it is half the battle) when I take care of myself. The better I feel, the more confidence I exude. Eating well, getting my rear to the gym, getting stronger, having some wiggle room in my jeans when I put them on – all of it makes me feel like I can do anything! I still have a lot of weight to lose to get to a “healthy weight”, but I’m doing something about it – and that equates to sexy for me.
What’s “sexy” to you?
Here is my bio: My name is Natalie Kath. I am from Minnesota, and I’m 35 years old. I have always been a “big” girl. I was an athlete in high school, and then a drinker and junk food eater in college. My rear began to expand. In December of 2009 my family intervened, and I went to a 4-week “Fat Camp” in Feb/March of 2010. Since then I have lost 65 pounds, and have much more to go. I document my trials and tribulations – while trying to maintain a sense of humor – at: slimmingdowntosexy.blogspot.com